Couple --> Parents

                          A carefree couple 

Having a child is the happiest event of your life and watching them grow bring joy in your life everyday.

Every big change in life whether good or bad, challenges you as a person , evolves your personality and make you a different being.

When you are expecting as a couple everybody around you prepares you about living with the baby, right way of taking care of her and tell their postpartum experience. But the thing that nobody prepares you about  is the change in the relationship with your spouse. 

It's like your romantic relationship is just a nostalgia now, the way you both used to spend time together, the way you cared for each other, the way you enjoyed your outings and trips. Everything becomes a thing of past  and you don't even realise it until you see an old picture of you two together, the way you both are smiling, how carefree you both used to feel, how loving your relationship was and you realise that it will never be the same again, not because there is any bitterness between you two but now you both have evolved as individuals after becoming parents, responsibilities have increased, you need to take care of the child and make every decision by keeping him/her in mind, you can't be carefree.

But I am not saying it in a negative way, having a child is a blessing but I am just acknowledging the fact that raising a human being is tough and trying to do it correctly is exhausting.

Moreover this exhaustion takes a toll over your relationship even though your spouse is doing their best, it can never be enough.

Is it the stress of increased responsibilities or anger of loosing something you once had? What is the reason of that lost spark?

You are not able to figure it out. Both of you are going through an emotionally challenging phase of your life.

Will it become better with time or we will just become like our parents, this fear also pertains. Now I understand why people say that marriage requires hard work.🫣

An hour of introspection concluded me to the fact that the way we are in present, we were not like this in the past and neither will be in  future.Each time we grow in life , the bittersweet nostalgia hits us in the middle of nowhere or in the middle of the night.

Like it has hit me now. 

                  Responsible parents